Dating breaking up kids
But if they tell you he is an attention hog or that you really don't need a boyfriend, anyway, because you have them, that's a different story. From their standpoint, there's a big gross out factor when it comes to the idea of their mom being all starry-eyed over some guy and doing all of those things that go along with dating.
Complaints of that nature indicate that their objections aren't based on anything specific to him; but rather they dislike the idea of your having any boyfriend at all. And what kid wouldn't get his back up over some new guy cutting in on the time and attention they get from their mom?
The good news is now that your divorce is final and you survived the temporary insanity that it caused, you're ready to consider another relationship.
The bad news is next to divorce, getting into a new relationship is the second leading cause of temporary insanity. A new relationship can be an exhilarating and blissful experience.
If they end up liking the guy they will form an attachment to him.
Then, if you end up breaking up sooner rather than later that sets them up for a loss that was totally avoidable.
After all, you've worked hard to get to where you are today.
Feel free to date, but try to schedule your dates on evenings that your kids are with their dad or otherwise away. If your new boyfriend has kids, resist the urge to wage a campaign to win them over right away.